Primer : This post of mine is the result of 7 days of joblessness and a little bit of overdose of nicotine (read as tea). Anyways here it goes :
I recently had a debate with my mother on the issue that my career should be left in my hands now ( me being 21 and if nothing else I at least have gained the right to make my own decisions/mistakes and learn from them subsequently). Although Her concern for me was genuine and I have nothing against it, but knowing stuff that goes on in a heated verbal exchange between a concerned mother and a 21 year old hot blooded kid , we all know it sometimes gets to best of us. It did get to me. Though I had my music to my rescue and I simply retreated to my room declining to have dinner and demanding to be left alone as I wanted to sit alone and think.
As I was sitting analyzing what she had told me and trying to find out how much of it actually carried weight. Stuff that she told me that is. Stuff like me not being serious enough and not thinking enough about my career and like. And to think of it , It seemed to me that although she was genuinely concerned for me but this was certainly not the correct way to show it. You have to have faith in your kid at the end of the day ! Dont you ? I was correct as well in telling that I need time to find out what I really like and the correct path to follow. And I should be given more time. The real issue is a little more complex which I need not elaborate upon and for the moment the readers of this post can simply take this thing at its face value that there was a point of conflict between what a son wants to do (Take his own time to make his decisions) with that what his mother wants ( follow the safe and secure path and probably get settled fast). And I felt that I was being forced to change my point of view if not directly then indirectly. And this is not correct. Though I understand that it shows weakness of my character but I haven’t given up on my ideals in the past couple of years and neither have plans to give up on them in the future as well. But I believe that this constant nagging only affects my decision making process. Yes it surely does. Ask yourself. You wont certainly be able to make a clearheaded decision if someone wants you to hasten things up. It simply leads you to becoming more irritated and hence end up making a wrong decision if nothing else.
And on the same note I had an opportunity to go through wikipedia page about Sanjay Gandhi,the younger son of former Prime Minister of India Indira Gandhi and politician Feroze Gandhi and his role during the emergency period of India during 1970s. According to the wikipedia article ( I am no big political historian)
“In the extremely hostile political environment just before and soon after the Emergency, Sanjay Gandhi rose in importance as Indira’s advisor. With the defections of former loyalists, Sanjay’s influence with Indira and the government increased dramatically, although he was never in an official or elected position. According to Mark Tully “His inexperience did not stop him from using the Draconian powers his mother, Indira Gandhi, had taken to terrorise the administration, setting up what was in effect a police state.
To add to it in 1976 he had launched a drive to cleanse the city of slums and force the residents to leave the capital. Sanjay reportedly ordered officials of the Delhi Development Authority, to clear the heavily populated, mostly Muslim slum near the Turkman Gate and Jama Masjid in Delhi. This forced resettlement of more than 250,000 people, which killed at least a dozen as recorded and became a touchstone for the opposition.
Sanjay also publicly initiated a widespread family planning program to limit population growth. But this resulted in government officials and police officers forcibly performing vasectomies in order to meet quotas and in some cases, sterilizing women as well. Officially, men with two children or more had to submit to sterilization, but many unmarried young men, political opponents and ignorant, poor men were also believed to have been sterilized. “
Personally I believe that the end result was meant for the greater good. I am in no way against Muslim Population here or have any bias for that matter. But I strongly believe that every human being deserves to live in a clean and disease free surroundings and what Sanjay Gandhi did was towards this same end result. Also there is nothing wrong in gettting oneself sterilized if one needs to have control over the progeny.
Now here is the interesting bit, at first I thought what Sanjay did was totally correct and there was nothing to be questioned in it. Later it struck me (yes it took me sometime to realise that he forced his will upon others). And this according to me was wrong.
Now thinking of both the cases as combined,though I am in no way comparing what Sanjay did to those people with what my concerned mother told me. But in effect the very underlying theme was same, One’s will upon another.
In the first case I was being in a way to directed to do something which I dint want to or was averse to and in another Sanjay played with lives of so many people just for the sake of many many others who will benefit by it. In my case it seems to me that I am correct in demanding for time and in Sanjay’s Case I believe that although his final result is correct but the way of achieving it is certainly not acceptable.
Can we say that Freedom to make a choice can only be given to few ? In the above mentioned cases Freedom of choice should be given to me or rather to a young aspiring student who can (rationally speaking) and will (hopefully) make good use of his/her freedom and end up choosing a career or making a decision which will be beneficial to him and at the end to his family as well. And Freedom shouldn’t be given to slum population as they will never leave (because of lack of options) and hence keep living in not fit for human conditions. I AM NOT MAKING A STATEMENT. I AM ASKING A QUESTION… Is Freedom the right only for few ? How do you decide who gets to choose and who doesnt ??
Ending with the hope that I will be making my own decisions !