Quality or Quantity ?

This post comes after i have wasted about 6 hours of my time simply browsing through profiles of hundreds of known and unknown contacts i have on facebook…with the advent of social sites the trend of adding everyday known faces is becoming so popular that some of my friends have near to 700 contacts on facebook or other such similar sites…now i am not saying that people cannot be friends with so many persons…but on a very rational basis it is near to impossible to “keep in touch” with so many contacts.. Maybe it is considered as cool to have more number of friends on social sites..more friends you have.more cooler you are!

But at the end of the day it doesnt really serve any purpose..you start feeling such a small entity in the entire web of contacts….A says” i am angry at “B” ” … B says ” C’s concert was great” … C is “in a relationship” with D…D says he is overjoyed!!….phew… and the list goes on….i open my facebook homepage and about 100 new updates are waiting to greet me…how does it matter to me if someone 1000 miles away was angry at her cat today morning ??? and adding to this..i met this person while sipping coffee in a canteen some 4 years back…well no one else is to blame…i myself got into this unending race of adding friends and commenting on random links and pics….

With facebook eating away so much of our time, hardly any time is left to interact with friends physically around us..now i would certainly prefer sipping tea with a batchmate (here) @ 3 am rather than going through profiles of persons i will probably never meet again in my life…

Realisation has finally dawned on me that it is not the quantity but the quality of friends you have that really matters…Three Cheers to all my existing friends and to the ones i am going to make (not on facebook :P) !

Have a good day !



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11 responses to “Quality or Quantity ?

  1. I agree.. Seems like you’ve finally caught on!!Good beginning..

  2. Ajay Bhat

    Facebook rocks!!!

  3. @ rahool : thanks !
    @ ajay : thanks for dropping by and going through the post..each one of us has right to his own views 😛 Cheers !

  4. srishti

    u needn’t see the 500-700 friends on facebook as merely that (i have bout 300)……… they serve a lot of puposes……
    for one…… u’re 21 right now…. u dont kno hu u’ll meet when in life… some of these acquantances might b best frnds in future……
    n imagine…… new city….. new job….. n u hv a couple o these ‘frnds’ wudnt that b better than total strangers….. in my opinion such kinda connections, if found out…. help u trust ppl faster and bcum frnds faster……..
    n for another….. u nvr kno when hu’ll come in handy……….

  5. @ srishti : well thats quite a thought… but i am not saying that having 500 -700 friends is bad…issue is when you start compromising on people around you… you cant see everything in terms of future…can you? Ultimately the moment which you will always have in hand is right now !!

  6. shivanand mohan

    Only if u hav 500-700 “frnds” in facebook..u can garner some TRP for this blog…

  7. again its a issue of Quality vs Quantity…!!

  8. Gio

    Glad you’re finally blogging. I totally understand what you mean. I have about 1,800+ friends on Facebook. They come from years and years worth of friendships. I have my childhood friends, my high school friends, my college friends, my work friends–and heck, even my family. I mainly talk to about 100 of the 1800+ friends. However, the reason I have that many is that even if I don’t talk to many of them, I do like to know what’s been going on in their lives–but I’d like the choice of when I want to know that info.

    Another reason I have that many friends is if I have certain events, such as the huge Freedom and Fashion show, a fashion show against human and sex trafficking, I can invite people I know who care about that issue.

    But yes, it’s true–quality over quantity.

    Which leads to other questions:
    What qualifies as a “friend?” Is it spending time with them? Is it communication every day? What about your “friends” that have moved to another state? Will the friendship change?

  9. Congratulations for finally reaching your goal of the semester..its really interesting ! keep it up !

  10. @ gio : thanks for stopping by and going through the post and giving such a thoughtful comment…well “quantity” of friends on facebook is not a problem until and unless it interferes in spending “quality” time with the friends around you…that is the sole intention of this post…not anti facebook or something ! 🙂 have a nice day !
    @ amar : thanks for your constant support !

  11. ipsha

    i can sort of relate,but not completely-
    firstly because,i don’t pay much attention to my home page(just glance at the first 5 posts),then if i want,i scroll down till the last one.secondly,i don’t have that kinda number on my friend’s list.even if i do come across an old friend,with whom I’ve lost touch,i always send a message reminding them of me and asking a little about how they are doing at the moment.after that,i really don’t remember adding them till i see a post on my home page :).i can call it complacency,but it’s merely-as you pointed out a waste of time.
    well written..

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